A friend asked me to watch Ruby Sparks. And, yay I did today and I really like it. I think the story line is simple and even though it was pretty predictable, it was still told well. I’m not going to write a review or anything about this movie, all I’m simply going to say is that it is a cute movie and I think it should be one of the movies to catch on a holiday. (Maaaaybe some spills of spoiler, alert!)
It may not hit you so soon, or maybe not at all. But it hit me when Cal bumped into Lila at Langdon’s party. So Lila told Cal that he wasn’t interested in her life at all and he all he cared about was himself during their relationship. It hit me that, the only reason why Lila left him was probably because he liked the idea of Lila while she was a writer as well and just had her company when he needed someone.
So the only reason why Cal created Ruby with his imagination because everything about her is his perfect idea of the girl he’d like to date, and it was all written out clearly by him. The moment he decided not to change or write anything about her, things start to go out of control and Ruby becomes someone he did not intentionally want in the first place.
In fear of losing another girl again he constantly rewrites Ruby, hoping to find the original idea of Ruby he had created and fell for in the beginning.
I felt that, as a human being, sometimes we hang on to somebody because we like the idea of them being around us. We fall for them because we felt that this is who they are in the first place. We found them as who they are and we are going to stick to that idea of them. But we fail to realize that each day people change and we discover new things about them. If we love the person, we embrace him/her. I think it is selfish when all you care about is how the person was and you expect him/her to stay that way forever. At the end of the day, someone is going to get hurt. It could even be you, when you demand so much, they leave and that’s when regret sets in.
Well I guess it was just the point where I felt, ‘hmm, that’s where getting into a relationship is so serious that I have to know what I’m getting myself into. there is no rush at all’